I do not always have it together

No, I do not always have it together. Most of the time I do not. It may come across as if I do, cute photos on social media, outings with friends, dinners etc. Friends say; you are doing so well or ask, how do you do it? My thoughts,  you have no idea! If you … Continue reading I do not always have it together

Girl Rising: I am Change

13 girls under 18 were married in the last 30 seconds. 38 thousand will be married today. 14 million will be married this year. These are just some of the statistics I heard during the screening of “Girl Rising” yesterday. The screening is part of the Houston Library’s World Café forum aimed at highlighting global … Continue reading Girl Rising: I am Change

My semi anti-Valentines Day post

Today I couldn’t help but to be annoyed by overwhelming Valentine’s Day social media posts, balloons and the impromptu flower shops outside grocery stores. I had to ask myself why? Do I really hate it this much? I don’t think I do but I dislike the idea that as human beings we are programmed to … Continue reading My semi anti-Valentines Day post

My reaction when I found out I was pregnant was not what you would expect

The day I found out I was pregnant wasn’t at all how I would have imagined it. I didn’t feel how I thought I would feel. I cried so much but not because I was happy, I was terrified. The circumstances were not ideal for a baby, the relationship wasn’t what a relationship should be … Continue reading My reaction when I found out I was pregnant was not what you would expect

A lil rehab from Facebook

 Several online dictionaries define an addict as a person who is addicted to an activity, habit or substance. The definition on Merriam Webster includes, “a person who likes or enjoys something very much and spends a large amount of time doing it, watching it, etc. I think we all have become addicts of something at … Continue reading A lil rehab from Facebook

The power of hugs and kisses from a tiny human

Earlier this week I felt something I don’t remember ever feeling before—the pure innocence of love. I was seating on the floor with Gael like we usually do when we get home from work. He was playing on his corner and I was seating there just watching him when out of nowhere he turns, sees me … Continue reading The power of hugs and kisses from a tiny human

13 Things We All Need To Start Doing Immediately

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Thought Catalog

It’s easy to get stuck in a monotonous routine without realizing it. Most people think that being in a rut means you’re miserable and that’s not necessarily true. You can find yourself being happy enough, which is scary because you aren’t quite sad, but you’ll never push yourself to be a better person because you’re good enough. Here are 13 things we should all start doing to, not only make ourselves better, but to improve the lives of those around us.

1. Watch a movie with your phone completely turned off. I don’t mean on silent either. Let yourself get lost in the movie and stop checking the amount of likes your Facebook status got for 90 minutes.

2. Go buy a new pillow. You’ve been sleeping on that old one for years and it’s falling apart. You’ll improve your quality of sleep as well as how you feel in…

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Birthdays

It was maybe about 5 years ago birthdays began to feel a bit awkward for me. The idea of celebrating “me” feels a bit uncomfortable. I used to get really excited about celebrating and turning one year older. I’m not sure when or why that changed for me. Maybe the idea of getting older doesn't … Continue reading Birthdays

Our not so perfect Christmas Photos

I had vision of the perfect Christmas photos with Gael. I wanted them to be in our home and as natural as possible. Well, they are in our home and very natural alright! Our photos are the opposite of the perfect holiday photos I've seen posted on social media lately and I'm okay with that. … Continue reading Our not so perfect Christmas Photos

Texas Posadas: Making new traditions with my little man

My family doesn’t really follow any traditions during the holidays. We just get together in someone’s home, eat and watch the kids be kids. I guess this is a kind of tradition, no? Some of the traditions I grew up with in El Salvador were lost when I came to United States.  Christmas felt different … Continue reading Texas Posadas: Making new traditions with my little man

#NaPhoPoMo 2013 Last Day: Look for the light

#Naphopomo is officially over and although I started a little late I'm proud of myself for posting 27 straight days. I really enjoyed the practice because it got me back into photography and on a regular routine of writing.  I have to thank the wonderful Karen Walrond for introducing me to Naphopomo and encouraging me … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013 Last Day: Look for the light

#NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 25: 10 months

It is hard to believe today he is 10 months, just 2 months shy away from being 1 year. I remember the days when I could take a photo with that zebra to show his growth from month to month. Now it is hard to get him to stay still. He crawls non-stop, stands on … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 25: 10 months

#NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 24: Life changes

Last year life didn't look or feel like this. I'm thankful for the changes Gael has brought into my life and all the little things he helps me value. He brings a different perspective, humility, hope and love I've never experienced. I'm thankful for this every single day. The photo above is a tradition I … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 24: Life changes

#NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 23: Lunch alone

Today I had lunch by myself.  This is a rarity for me nowadays. I used to do this all the time. Times have changed.  When you are a parent eating becomes a rushed activity even more so when you are doing the single parent thing.  I love eating with my little guy but I also … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 23: Lunch alone

#NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 22: Beautiful Green

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to take photos at the Neighborhood Centers (NCI) grand opening of their Leonel Castillo Community Center  located near downtown. I hadn't posted any of the photos because I was waiting to give them to NCI. This is one of my favorite photos of the day.  I noticed … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 22: Beautiful Green

#NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 21: A gloomy day

Today was one of those days the weather fits the mood- cold, rainy and gloomy. There have been a few clouds that have made the last few days a bit of a struggle for me. Do you ever have days when things don't seem to go right? You try so hard to make things better … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013 Day 21: A gloomy day

#NaPhoPoMo 2013, Day 20: My kid has the best smile

My kid does have a great smile and I cannot get enough of it. I love how he giggles at random sounds and silly faces. I love that he thinks I'm funny and gets super excited when he sees me dance like a crazy person. I love how his eyes light up as soon as … Continue reading #NaPhoPoMo 2013, Day 20: My kid has the best smile

#naphopomo 2013, Day 18: Perfect trio

I love watching the Houston skyline after the sun sets. The Sabine bridge is one of my favorite spots to admire our beautiful city lights. There's something magical, almost poetic about the way these illuminate the sky. The buildings, lights and sky make a perfect trio on a winter night. This photograph was taken as … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 18: Perfect trio

#naphopomo 2013, Day 17: Dinner en nuestro hogar

Tonight Gael and I hosted a dinner for a small group of friends at home. This was a first for me. I've never really had more than one friend come over for dinner. It was really nice. It's was our usual sunday breakfast bunch- Rafa, Pau and Ale. I managed to cook a pretty decent meal … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 17: Dinner en nuestro hogar

#naphopomo 2013, Day 16: Meet Mike

I met Mike Segal this morning during a visit at Ben Taub Hospital with my Mom. He came into the waiting area and said, "at 11am I'm going to have a support group in this room. I would like to tell you my story." My initial thought was, "oh great, what's this guy going to … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 16: Meet Mike

#naphopomo 2013, Day 15: Out of the ordinary

Today I decided to do something out of the ordinary  while Gael spent time with Dad. I took a dance class for the first time in a very long time. If you know me well, you know I love to dance. I wanted to be a dancer when I grew up... I still do! The … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 15: Out of the ordinary

#naphopomo 2013, Day 14: The art of design

I'm always impressed with people that are able to create beauty with their hands. Tonight I attended the Taste of the Texans event where HCC had a booth displaying design work by one of the professors along with delicious sweets. The photos below show you a before and after.  It was great watching the designer … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 14: The art of design

#naphopomo 2013, Day 13: Domingos con Tota

 Gael gets excited when we visit Tota on sundays. She tries to sing to him and he just stares. I love watching them interact because I never thought she would get to see one of my kids. She used to say, "You need to hurry up and have a baby before I die." She got … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 13: Domingos con Tota

#naphopomo 2013, Day 12: Dinner with friends

A dinner with a great group of friends will always be a win on a Saturday night. Gael and I did just that last night. Gatherings like this are great reminders of how great are good ol' hangouts, and conversations with friends. I mean, LIVE hangouts!! We don't do this enough in the age of … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 12: Dinner with friends

#naphopomo 2013, Day 11: Friday night light

  Give a kid a flash light and this is what happens! Tonight Gael and I did our usual Friday date night. I took advantage of the nice weather and took out to Market Square in downtown. I think it's pretty amazing how kids love the simplest things. There's no need to buy the most … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 11: Friday night light

#naphopomo 2013, Day 10: Morning smiles

This is the smile I got to enjoy this morning.  Actually, this is the smile I get to see every single morning. I said it on my first #naphopomo post and I don't mind saying again and again!  One of my favorite things about Gael is the fact that he wakes up with that same smile … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 10: Morning smiles

Day 9: Community Table #naphopomo

Tonight I got some much needed adult time with my lady friends April and Ericka. We have made it a habit to meet every 2 to 3 weeks for a nice dinner out. It is our version of "ladies night out “minus the heavy drinking and clubbing. Gael is usually the 4th guest but tonight … Continue reading Day 9: Community Table #naphopomo

Day 8: Captured #naphopomo

My favorite subjects to photograph are children and the elderly. I always something pure, innocent and beautiful when taking their photographs. This is why I was so excited to be able to photograph my friend's parents earlier this month. I finished editing and delivered photos yesterday which means I can finally share some of them … Continue reading Day 8: Captured #naphopomo

#naphopomo 2013, day 7: Twenty minutes

Today I ran on my own for the first time in a long time. I think last time I ran alone was when I was a few months pregnant. It was only for 20 minutes and not at all the pace I used to have but it felt great. 20 minutes was all I could … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, day 7: Twenty minutes

#naphopomo 2013, day 6: A walk in the park + some cuteness

I decided to take advantage of the perfect weather on Sunday and take a walk in the park with Gael. My favorite sight from the walk was the photo above. A couple brought their hammock and took a nap by the bayou. I must say I was a little jealous of their awesome idea and … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, day 6: A walk in the park + some cuteness

#naphopomo 2013, Day 5: Helen and the kids

 Helen Guerra is one of the most caring individuals I've ever met. She cares for my Gael during the day while I'm at work. Helen is not just Gael's babysitter but she also has become a part of our little family. Her care for Gael goes beyond the 8+ hours she keeps him, it never stops … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 5: Helen and the kids

#naphopomo 2013, Day 4: Pan Dulce

With the weather change comes pan dulce for me. I find comfort and much needed warmth in eating a piece of pan dulce with a cup of Cafe or hot chocolate.  I don't think I'm alone on this because the Panaderia was pretty busy when I visited last night. what about you? what brings you … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 4: Pan Dulce

#naphopomo 2013, Day 3: A beautiful reflection

This was my view on the way to my car this evening afterwork. There's something magical about sunsets that can make any day so much better. The reflection against the building was a great reminder that beauty can be found in the most unexpected places. This photograph was taken as part of #NaPhoPoMo (National Photo Posting … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 3: A beautiful reflection

#naphopomo 2013, Day 2: Paying attention

It is amazing what happens when we begin to pay attention. My eyes and mind were much more aware of the surroundings today because I knew I needed a photo for this post. Both were more open. I noticed the shift when I walked out the door with my camera (and baby) on hands just … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 2: Paying attention

#naphopomo 2013, Day 1: Better late than never

Lately, I've been paying a bit more attention to posts online, especially those that offer tools for struggling bloggers like me! One of my friend's posted a link to Blogher.com NaBloPoMo post on Friday. Her headline caught my eye: Today is the first day of NaBloPoMo, "National Blog Posting Month. Bloggers commit to posting once a … Continue reading #naphopomo 2013, Day 1: Better late than never

My childhood memory of el Dia de Los Muertos

One of my favorite childhood memories may sound a bit morbid to some but very normal to others. I  loved the time of the year when Tota would take me to the cemetery to spend the day at my great grandmother Mamita's grave. November 1st in El Salvador, like in many other Latin American countries, is a … Continue reading My childhood memory of el Dia de Los Muertos

It doesn’t just happen in October

Last week I attended the Domestic Violence awareness program at the Houston Area Women’s Center shelter and it was powerful to be back and be surrounded by survivors. It felt like home and it reminded me of the important work advocates at the Women’s center do. I also realized that although I may have left, … Continue reading It doesn’t just happen in October

Me salio lo cursi con la maternidad // Motherhood made me a lil’ corny

English Version- Motherhood made me a lil' corny Esto de la maternidad no me lo esperaba, por lo menos no ahora. Confieso que cuando me di cuenta de mi embarazo fue muy aterrador- nunca llore tanto. Ahora que tengo a mi Gael entre mis brazos es lo  mejor que me pudo haber pasado. Este amor … Continue reading Me salio lo cursi con la maternidad // Motherhood made me a lil’ corny

A beautiful struggle

Do you ever have days when you have so much to do it is hard to get anything done? You feel like your mind is racing faster than a race car and there’s only so much you can do to hold still.  Things begin to happen so fast and your only wish is to stop … Continue reading A beautiful struggle

My last week at the Women’s Center

This was my last week as an employee at the Houston Area Women's Center. I look back at how it all began and those made a difference during my 5 years.

My inspiration

I’ve had major blogger’s block for the last 6 months. For me, blogger’s block is when you cannot get yourself to click the publish button. My blogger’s block is not due to lack of inspiration or motivation. I’ve actually written quite a bit and even started journaling again. This blog was inspired by a journal. … Continue reading My inspiration

I have been too quiet for too long

Today someone reminded me of something I wrote a while back and encouraged me to read some of my posts from a few years ago. Some were very powerful and inspiring. I was transported and wondered what happened to that voice-- my voice. A voice that dared and encouraged me to embrace my different. I … Continue reading I have been too quiet for too long

Carta al hombre que no quiso ser mi padre

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In English!

Un padre es alguien que esta constantemente presente, demuestra amor e inspira- yo no recuerdo a mi padre así. El para mi es un tanto extraño y al que mi corazón se reusa llamar padre. Es por esto que nunca escribí sobre el hasta hoy.  Tal vez sea mi eterna curiosidad sobre lo que nunca supe, o simplemente búsqueda de un perdón y paz interna que aun no encuentro. Esta es la carta que nunca le escribí pero que ha vivido en mi corazón por muchos años, una carta que espero un dia el lea.

La Carta

Mi primera memoria de usted es la visita que le hice poco después de que la guerra civil en el salvador terminara. Recuerdo que me pusieron el mejor y tal vez el único buen vestido y zapatos que tenia en ese tiempo.  Cuando las cosas empeoraron en el Zamoran mi abuela…

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Thoughts from a new Mamá: don’t freak and have compassion

Friday May 24th, 2013 Today was one of those days I thought about over and over again when I was pregnant. The day Gael would be a little sick and I would be clueless.  Mi Gael got a fever overnight and it freaked me out. I kept telling myself to do one thing but kept … Continue reading Thoughts from a new Mamá: don’t freak and have compassion

Motherhood Moments: Now I understand my Mother

Español para La Voz It’s true. The best thing that can happen to a mother is that her children have children. Now that I’ve become a Mom I understand and admire my mother so much more. My story with my mother is like that of many other families who come to this country seeking a … Continue reading Motherhood Moments: Now I understand my Mother

Month 1 with Gael: in a different country learning a new language

It has been a month since I met the lil guy that would change everything in my life! It is truly amazing how such a small being could revolutionize everything I’ve ever known. I'm in a new country learning a different language! Life changed quite a bit during pregnancy but not quite as much as … Continue reading Month 1 with Gael: in a different country learning a new language

No, I’m not married but yes I have a kid!

The following is a post I began writing back in October of last year. I’ve never edited any of my posts more than this one. I’ve waited a while to post for several reasons. The original post was angry and emotional. I was reacting at some of the questions people kept asking when I first … Continue reading No, I’m not married but yes I have a kid!

Amor que no conocía

Amor que no conocía Amor que no espera nada Amor sin restricciones Amor sin complicaciones Amor que te llena de aire Te cobija con ternura Te abraza con cariño Amor que borra tristezas Te consuela cuando mas lo necesitas Te sonreí cuando te hace falta Amor como este no hay ninguno No te ahoga No … Continue reading Amor que no conocía

Meet Gael: The greatest love of all!

“One day that boy will be your reason for living. It is the greatest love of all.” My good friend Camile could not have been more right—my little boy is the greatest love I have ever felt and I am so thankful to finally have him in my arms. He is perfect, beautiful and the … Continue reading Meet Gael: The greatest love of all!

Carta al hombre que no quiso ser mi padre

In English! Un padre es alguien que esta constantemente presente, demuestra amor e inspira- yo no recuerdo a mi padre así. El para mi es un tanto extraño y al que mi corazón se reusa llamar padre. Es por esto que nunca escribí sobre el hasta hoy.  Tal vez sea mi eterna curiosidad sobre lo que … Continue reading Carta al hombre que no quiso ser mi padre