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A lil rehab from Facebook

25 Jan

 a=]ceSeveral online dictionaries define an addict as a person who is addicted to an activity, habit or substance. The definition on Merriam Webster includes, a person who likes or enjoys something very much and spends a large amount of time doing it, watching it, etc.

I think we all have become addicts of something at some point in our lives.  I know a lot of us are addicts of social media one way or another. I know I am. How many times have been on a red light and you check your Facebook or Instagram? What about while having dinner with friends or family? What about in the mornings? Is this one of the first (maybe the first) things you do when you wake up? Maybe while seating on the toilet? I think we have become addicted not only to social media but our smart phones. The other day some shared on the elevator they forgot their phone at home and the first thing someone said, “how did you survive?” how did this happen to us? Do you remember the days before text messages? Before any social media took over our lives? Do you remember how it used to be? How you interacted with your friends and family? Seems like so long ago, doesn’t it?

I shut down my Facebook page about two weeks ago because I realized it was taking too much of my time. I was becoming the person I described above and it made me feel pathetic. I felt pathetic because I realized I was wasting precious time. I felt pathetic because I was starting to lose connection with those closest to me. I felt pathetic because I was taking time and attention away from my little guy. This last part is probably the main reason I decided to take a break.

I re-opened the page because there are a few major events coming up that I would like to share with some of my friends I don’t get to see too often. This and my blog is probably the only reason I will keep the page open. Most of my blog visits are thanks to Facebook, which keeps this blog alive.  Don’t get me wrong, I do like Facebook and enjoy seeing what others are doing. Facebook is not the problem, I am!! I’m the one who makes the choice to constantly check it and take time away from the important things.

I will say I didn’t miss it one bit! It wasn’t hard at all to take it out of my daily routine. It was actually refreshing. I began paying more attention to my surroundings. I called people and even did face time with a few of them. I paid more attention to Gael during playtime. I didn’t have the urge to check it.

I encourage you to try it. Give yourself a social media rehab. Don’t try it all once maybe just one- Facebook, Intagram, Twitter, or Pinterest etc?? Disconnect from it and connect with people. Call friends instead of “face booking” or texting. I know we are all busy and we like to convenience of a text message or quickly scanning our friend’s walls but once in a while call your friends. If we have time to text or surf our feeds we have time for a call, a visit and even a lunch. Keep social media around but don’t let the connection you have with people depend on it. Just try.

Day 9: Community Table #naphopomo

13 Nov

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Tonight I got some much needed adult time with my lady friends April and Ericka. We have made it a habit to meet every 2 to 3 weeks for a nice dinner out. It is our version of “ladies night out “minus the heavy drinking and clubbing. Gael is usually the 4th guest but tonight he was spending time with dad. It is kind of funny because Gael has become almost a requirement to hangout with some of my friends. He is usually pretty good in social settings, which I think it’s a result of dragging him along to almost everything I do. 

Tonight’s meal was even more enjoyable because we sat in the community table at Underbelly. It was great seating at this table because we got a chance to chat with a couple from Colorado seating next to us. The woman initiated the conversation and asked us about the food. She shared they visit Houston every 3 months because she is part of a case study at MD Anderson Cancer Center. She said proudly, “I just celebrated my first year in remission… I’ve been clean and feeling great!”

It was a breathe of fresh air to have a conversation with two complete strangers and even shared our food with them. I don’t think we do this enough now a days. We get so caught up in the social media world we don’t make time to talk to each other in person. If you get a chance to visit a restaurant where you can share the table with others I encourage you to try it. Always keep in mind everyone has a story and you have yours to share. Oh and if you are an avid smart phone user try putting it away during the meal. I put mine away for most of the meal but neglected to take a photo of the actual community table!! This was the most decent photo of the night, which is sad but proves I was busier enjoying the meal and conversation.

This photograph was taken as part of #NaPhoPoMo (National Photo Posting Month) – a shot a day for the month of November.

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